There are a number of ways in which you can ask friends or relatives to get involved in your Wedding Day. It can also very often seem as a way to save some money, if you ask them to look after one of the services you will need to arrange. But beware.
Before you make any approaches, think carefully about what exactly you want, and take the following points into consideration.
The friend may be offended that they’ve only been invited to your wedding to be the hairdresser, the photographer, make the cake, etc and not as a valued guest.
Be clear in the instructions of what you expect from the service, just because they are a friend doesn’t mean you should settle for less.
The friend may not be at the professional expert level you need for your wedding day. Just because they have a super camera doesn’t mean they’re qualified. The person that you thought was a good photographer may have lots of headless shots! Can you ask to see previous work without offending?
If it’s hair and beauty you’re asking them to look after, have you had a trial?
Do you still expect this guest to give a wedding present? Is payment expected? Are you paying for the expenses for this person to be at your wedding – transport, accommodation, meals, gratuity, etc. Be clear about payments before you proceed with the booking.
Know if you need to provide support for this service such as transport for the photographer, equipment for the band. If a friend is driving you to the wedding, do they know the route or should you provide a Satnav. Do they know how long the journey will take, are they a good time-keeper?
Wedding Guest vs Professional
Be conscious to continue an excellent rapport right up to your wedding day with this guest so you do not have a last-minute cancellation. Check very close to the wedding date the availability and expectations of the guests providing services for you. Be confident that everything is running smoothly.
Be aware of the Pitfalls – the guest could be tired, sick, hungover, could cancel at the last minute – have you a back-up plan?
In taking these points into consideration, think carefully before you decide to approach a friend with your request, and if in doubt, hire a professional. Penny wise sometimes can be pound foolish. Hiring the professional can actually alleviate stress. You can always explain to your friend you want them to be able to relax and enjoy your wedding celebration to the full without having to work. They just might be relieved too!
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